If your problem is not lasting long enough to even satisfy you or your lover then you should check out Premature Ejaculation in our Health section; this article is more about improving an already adequate performance...
One common goal amongst virtually all guys is to last longer during sexual intercourse. Unfortunately, most men can’t last as long as they would like and feel inadequate because of it. The first thing that needs to be understood is that the state of mind a person is in has a huge effect on their sexual performance. Getting all uptight and worried is going to do you no good; neither is having a partner that gets really angry about it. Both parties need to work together to improve the situation, and the most important thing is to stay positive.
The first principle behind the techniques and suggestions listed below is the man’s ability to know his own body. By understanding how his body works and how his excitement rises, he should be able to learn how to pace himself better. It is key to know when to slow down to allow your excitement to drop enough so that you can "re-group" and then pick up the pace again. The second principle has to do with decreasing the sensitivity of the penis. By decreasing the sensitivity, it will take more stimulation to achieve the excitement necessary for climax. The following techniques and suggestions should help boost his sexual stamina, but they are not miracle cures, it will take patience and the right attitude to make things better.
Start & Stop Technique
The primary principle of this technique is to stimulate the penis until near ejaculation, and then stop stimulating to allow the level of excitement to drop. This exercise can be performed alone, or with a partner, and should be repeated 3 to 5 times per session. After 2-6 weeks of using this technique you should notice an improvement in your sexual stamina and will eventually not even have to use it to outlast your partner.
Squeeze Technique
Right before you feel you are about to ejaculate, approximately three or four strokes away, stop stimulating and squeeze the base of your penis by wrapping your thumb and index finger around it. Apply firm pressure, focusing on the urethra, the tube running along the underside of the penis. This lessens the tension and holds back the ejaculatory response. Be sure to apply pressure a few strokes before ejaculating … if you wait too long, it may be too late! You should be able to apply this technique anywhere along the shaft of the penis, as long as it squeezes the urethra.
Regular Masturbation
A great method for boosting sexual stamina and releasing sexual tension is regular masturbation. By masturbating more often, you can train yourself to become more used to the stimulation. As you get more and more used to it, it should start taking you progressively longer to climax.
Wearing Condoms
Many couples have claimed that wearing condoms significantly reduces the stimulation of intercourse for both partners, but especially the male. If you are not already using condoms to protect against STD's and pregnancy, try wearing them to increase your stamina. If necessary, consider wearing a thicker condom, it should make a large difference in the amount of stimulation that you feel.
Sex Toys
Following the same line of logic as in "Regular Masturbation" above, you can use sex toys to help you become more "immune" to the pleasure. Sex simulators are recommended over regular vibrators, but both should work. For more information on toys, please have a look at our sex toys and sex toy reviews sections.
Thursday, September 30, 2010
Wednesday, September 29, 2010
Homeovestism
Homeovestism is the sexual gratification that is gained by wearing clothing that is normal or appropriate for ones gender. This can include a man who is arroused by wearing a suit or a woman who is aroused by wearing a dress. It is the opposite of transvestitism. homeovestism is "an impersonation of the idealized phallic parent of the same sex" in order "to overcome shameful and frightening cross-gender identifications"
Friday, September 24, 2010
Female masturbation tips
Whether you only have time for a quick feel-good session with yourself, or whether you have all the time in the world, the following list provides a method for every woman to maximize her benefit from a beautiful masturbation experience. Right now, take a little look-see to find out which one(s) fit your personality and schedule.
Skin to Skin Contact
The Pattie Cake
With your pointer and middle fingers, gently pat your clitoris. Vary the pressure and the speed. Your little man in the boat will stand at attention. Your inner labia and clitoris will feel sticky sweet and warm up. The inside of your vagina will overflow with your love fluid. Directly before you come, push those same two fingers into your sticky sweetness. Rub the natural lubricant from inside of you onto your clitoris, and rub hard until you come.
The Sandwich Cookie
Imagine your first two fingers as the hard cookies that sandwich a creamy filling. Gently grip your clitoris between your first two fingers. Stroke your clitoris with your other hand. Vary the pressure and speed until you come.
The Open-Faced Sandwich
Use the palm of your outstretched hand, gently pat and then push down gently. Continue with this rhythm until you begin to feel hot. When you are almost to the end, just push and let go, push and let go, never letting your hand leave skin contact.
The Pulsing Pelvis
Begin touching yourself with your fingers how you like it the best. Start to softly contract your leg muscles in order for your pelvis to gently pulse in a rhythm reminiscent of lovemaking with a partner. Rock up and down, up and down, until you come.
Take a Dip
In the Pool
Spread your legs as far as you can while positioning yourself in front of one of the jets in your pool or hot tub. Stand far enough away from the jet so it is not uncomfortable for you, then move closer and closer until the stimulation is just the right amount to jet you into orgasm.
With Your Shower Head
Use your handheld shower head to masturbate. Actually take the shower head off of its hook and press it on your clitoris. Rub softly. Rub firmly. Alternate between the two extremes, or find a middle ground. Always synchronize your motions to escalate the masturbation experience.
In Your Bathtub
Get into your dry bathtub and sit directly underneath the faucet. Make sure the faucet is aimed directly at your clitoris. Turn the water on warm and let the flow of water hit your clitoris. Use your elbows to hold up your upper body and stick your hands underneath your butt. Right before your orgasm, turn the water temperature to hot … a comfortable hot … and let yourself come.
Common Toys
Dig the Shovel
You can use whatever object turns you on. Pick out a vibrator or anything you like. Mimicking a gently digging motion, use the toy to play with your clitoris. Slide your toy down your clitoris, across your clitoris, and upward, removing the object entirely from your body. Repeat until you reach orgasm.
It’s Electric
When using an electric toothbrush to stimulate your clitoris, simply use it as if it were a vibrator. Touch softly at first, and then as you get more excited, get into a rhythm of hard, soft, or medium pressure. Go up, down, all around, in little circles. Find the motion that suits you the best.
A Play Station
Use a Metal Gear Solid CD on your Sony Playstation, and grab the vibrating controller. Follow the same instructions for the electric toothbrush and the rest is easy. Find yourself. You’ll figure out what to do.
If you have already tried all of the above masturbation tips for women, try adding your own personalized touch on variations to these techniques. If this still isn’t doing it for you, stay tuned for the next set of tips from the professionals.
If you follow the previous tips, you too will experience the self-satisfying beauty of climactic joy through masturbation. When you find something new that works for you, you can share your little secret with your partner.
Skin to Skin Contact
The Pattie Cake
With your pointer and middle fingers, gently pat your clitoris. Vary the pressure and the speed. Your little man in the boat will stand at attention. Your inner labia and clitoris will feel sticky sweet and warm up. The inside of your vagina will overflow with your love fluid. Directly before you come, push those same two fingers into your sticky sweetness. Rub the natural lubricant from inside of you onto your clitoris, and rub hard until you come.
The Sandwich Cookie
Imagine your first two fingers as the hard cookies that sandwich a creamy filling. Gently grip your clitoris between your first two fingers. Stroke your clitoris with your other hand. Vary the pressure and speed until you come.
The Open-Faced Sandwich
Use the palm of your outstretched hand, gently pat and then push down gently. Continue with this rhythm until you begin to feel hot. When you are almost to the end, just push and let go, push and let go, never letting your hand leave skin contact.
The Pulsing Pelvis
Begin touching yourself with your fingers how you like it the best. Start to softly contract your leg muscles in order for your pelvis to gently pulse in a rhythm reminiscent of lovemaking with a partner. Rock up and down, up and down, until you come.
Take a Dip
In the Pool
Spread your legs as far as you can while positioning yourself in front of one of the jets in your pool or hot tub. Stand far enough away from the jet so it is not uncomfortable for you, then move closer and closer until the stimulation is just the right amount to jet you into orgasm.
With Your Shower Head
Use your handheld shower head to masturbate. Actually take the shower head off of its hook and press it on your clitoris. Rub softly. Rub firmly. Alternate between the two extremes, or find a middle ground. Always synchronize your motions to escalate the masturbation experience.
In Your Bathtub
Get into your dry bathtub and sit directly underneath the faucet. Make sure the faucet is aimed directly at your clitoris. Turn the water on warm and let the flow of water hit your clitoris. Use your elbows to hold up your upper body and stick your hands underneath your butt. Right before your orgasm, turn the water temperature to hot … a comfortable hot … and let yourself come.
Common Toys
Dig the Shovel
You can use whatever object turns you on. Pick out a vibrator or anything you like. Mimicking a gently digging motion, use the toy to play with your clitoris. Slide your toy down your clitoris, across your clitoris, and upward, removing the object entirely from your body. Repeat until you reach orgasm.
It’s Electric
When using an electric toothbrush to stimulate your clitoris, simply use it as if it were a vibrator. Touch softly at first, and then as you get more excited, get into a rhythm of hard, soft, or medium pressure. Go up, down, all around, in little circles. Find the motion that suits you the best.
A Play Station
Use a Metal Gear Solid CD on your Sony Playstation, and grab the vibrating controller. Follow the same instructions for the electric toothbrush and the rest is easy. Find yourself. You’ll figure out what to do.
If you have already tried all of the above masturbation tips for women, try adding your own personalized touch on variations to these techniques. If this still isn’t doing it for you, stay tuned for the next set of tips from the professionals.
If you follow the previous tips, you too will experience the self-satisfying beauty of climactic joy through masturbation. When you find something new that works for you, you can share your little secret with your partner.
Thursday, September 23, 2010
Bedroom boredom busters
There are ways to get rid of some of the boring bedroom antics. Here they are;
1. Share your deepest fantasies with each other.
2. Kiss with your eyes open..
3. Extend your foreplay time... considerably.
4. Play truth or dare but keep your questions steered towards the topic at hand.
5. Make love by only candlelight.
6. Try ice...
7. Spend $100 on lingerie.
8. Take a bath or shower together.
9. Write a sensual love story about you and your partner. Leave it for them to read.
10. Use whipped cream...
11. Stay the night at a hotel with a hot tub.
12. Make it a point to touch every inch of your lover's body.
13. Learn more about aphrodisiacs.
14. Give your love a sensual massage.
15. Buy a few love making technique books and read them together.
16. Compliment your love on how they look and while making love.
17. Do a strip dance for them.
18. Spend a day teasing your partner.
19. Make love somewhere other than your home.
20. Experiment with different types of kisses.
21. When your love comes home, take control and make love to them right there.
22. Share a bottle of champagne while laying on blanket in your backyard looking at the stars.
23. Wash your partner.
24. Leave hidden sensually, teasing notes where they will find them.
25. Experiment with food during foreplay.
26. Kiss every part of their body.
27. Christen each room by making love in a new room every night.
28. Try one new thing in the bedroom a week.
29. Pick up your lover wearing only a trench coat.
30. Fix your hair, makeup, etc. Go to bed with only a pair of high heels on.
1. Share your deepest fantasies with each other.
2. Kiss with your eyes open..
3. Extend your foreplay time... considerably.
4. Play truth or dare but keep your questions steered towards the topic at hand.
5. Make love by only candlelight.
6. Try ice...
7. Spend $100 on lingerie.
8. Take a bath or shower together.
9. Write a sensual love story about you and your partner. Leave it for them to read.
10. Use whipped cream...
11. Stay the night at a hotel with a hot tub.
12. Make it a point to touch every inch of your lover's body.
13. Learn more about aphrodisiacs.
14. Give your love a sensual massage.
15. Buy a few love making technique books and read them together.
16. Compliment your love on how they look and while making love.
17. Do a strip dance for them.
18. Spend a day teasing your partner.
19. Make love somewhere other than your home.
20. Experiment with different types of kisses.
21. When your love comes home, take control and make love to them right there.
22. Share a bottle of champagne while laying on blanket in your backyard looking at the stars.
23. Wash your partner.
24. Leave hidden sensually, teasing notes where they will find them.
25. Experiment with food during foreplay.
26. Kiss every part of their body.
27. Christen each room by making love in a new room every night.
28. Try one new thing in the bedroom a week.
29. Pick up your lover wearing only a trench coat.
30. Fix your hair, makeup, etc. Go to bed with only a pair of high heels on.
Wednesday, September 22, 2010
Trichophilia
Trichophilia or hair fetishism is a disorder where one is sexually aroused by human hair; it is usually hair on the scalp. But this does not preclude pubic hair, hair under the armpits. The perpetrator orgasms from watching or touching long hair, long bangs, red hair (freckle fetishism), wet hair, hair cutting, new hairstyles etc.
Tuesday, September 21, 2010
How to perform fellatio
Let's begin with a word of reassurance: as long as there are no teeth involved, there's really no such thing as bad fellatio, also known as a "blow job" (though there's no blowing involved). For the recipient, they range from "That was a nice little bit of foreplay" to a mind-bending "Oh my god, I think I almost lost consciousness."
But with a little practice, and a few easy tips, you can improve your odds of providing a truly great blow job every time.
Be Safe. First things first: If you're not with a monogamous partner, be safe and use a condom. Granted, oral sex is easier to give and enjoy without the condom, but you absolutely have to put your own health first. Don't like the taste? Not a problem. Experiment with some of the flavored condoms on the market -- that's what they're there for! And applying water-based lube to the penis before you put on the condom will greatly increase his pleasure.
Get Comfortable. Get into a position that provides you easy access but is also comfortable. Change positions as necessary -- after all, he wants you to enjoy yourself, too. If you're kneeling on the floor in front of him, use a pillow under your knees.
Don't Curb Your Enthusiasm. The key ingredient, many people will tell you, is plain and simple: enthusiasm. No one wants to feel like their partner is reluctant or unwilling, so if you're not into it, save it for another time. But if you seem like you're having fun, it will make the experience that much more pleasurable for him.
Begin With the End in Mind. Unless it's just a little foreplay, take your time and pace yourself so you don't burn out early. That said, don't feel like it has to be a major commitment every time. Almost any man will tell you he'd prefer getting quicker blow jobs more often over one really great one a year.
Get Him Talking. Whether it's harder, softer, faster or slower, no one knows exactly what he wants better than he does. Let him know it's okay to tell you what he needs, whether verbally or non-verbally. But also be sure to watch for clues: heavy breathing and moans of pleasure mean you're on the right track.
Start Off With Style. A little variety is the best way to get him fully aroused: you can stroke, kiss, lick, run your tongue up and down the shaft, take the penis all the way into your mouth in one fell swoop... Keeping him guessing can be a real turn-on.
Use Your Hands: Part 1. Run your hands over his chest and legs. Grab his backside. Use your hands to gently cup his balls. Not only does it feel good, but it's a good way to show him that you're into it.
Don't Be Shy. Women often under-estimate the amount of pressure they can exert on an aroused, erect penis. There's no need to be delicate. It's good to start out with soft, tantalizing moves, but, as arousal is heightened, it will take more pressure to keep things moving along. Let him know that it's okay to tell you when it's too much. Odds are, he won't.
Watch Those Teeth! Unless your partner specifically requests it, don't use your teeth. It can and probably will be painful for him. The best technique is to suck in your lips to cover your teeth just to make sure you don't accidentally graze him during the act.
The Extra-Credit Secret Spot. On the underside of the penis, directly below the head, is a small ridge of skin known as the frenulum. On many men, this area is exquisitely sensitive to stimulation. Learn it. Know it. Use it.
Get Into a Rhythm. Once he's fully aroused and heading towards what will hopefully be a mind-blowing orgasm, it's time to take things up a notch. This is where you begin fellating in earnest. Use gentle (not too gentle) suction and an up-and-down motion with your head to move him toward climax.
Use Your Hands: Part 2. Grasp his penis at the base and move your hand up and down in rhythm with your mouth for increased pressure. Get a steady rhythm going and don't vary it. It can (and probably will) speed up as he gets closer, but at this point it's important to not change what you're doing. This is the very best way to make sure your excursion into blow job land reaches its grand finale.
To Swallow or Not To Swallow... That is the question. It's up to you. Many men will tell you that they kind of like it when their partner swallows (although if you did your job well, they might not even notice). But if the idea doesn't appeal, keep a towel or cup nearby so you don't have to race to the sink afterwards.
The Most Important Thing to Remember. Have fun. Relax. He's going to love it. At the very least, he'll like it. A whole, whole lot. Especially if you promise to keep practicing on h
But with a little practice, and a few easy tips, you can improve your odds of providing a truly great blow job every time.
Be Safe. First things first: If you're not with a monogamous partner, be safe and use a condom. Granted, oral sex is easier to give and enjoy without the condom, but you absolutely have to put your own health first. Don't like the taste? Not a problem. Experiment with some of the flavored condoms on the market -- that's what they're there for! And applying water-based lube to the penis before you put on the condom will greatly increase his pleasure.
Get Comfortable. Get into a position that provides you easy access but is also comfortable. Change positions as necessary -- after all, he wants you to enjoy yourself, too. If you're kneeling on the floor in front of him, use a pillow under your knees.
Don't Curb Your Enthusiasm. The key ingredient, many people will tell you, is plain and simple: enthusiasm. No one wants to feel like their partner is reluctant or unwilling, so if you're not into it, save it for another time. But if you seem like you're having fun, it will make the experience that much more pleasurable for him.
Begin With the End in Mind. Unless it's just a little foreplay, take your time and pace yourself so you don't burn out early. That said, don't feel like it has to be a major commitment every time. Almost any man will tell you he'd prefer getting quicker blow jobs more often over one really great one a year.
Get Him Talking. Whether it's harder, softer, faster or slower, no one knows exactly what he wants better than he does. Let him know it's okay to tell you what he needs, whether verbally or non-verbally. But also be sure to watch for clues: heavy breathing and moans of pleasure mean you're on the right track.
Start Off With Style. A little variety is the best way to get him fully aroused: you can stroke, kiss, lick, run your tongue up and down the shaft, take the penis all the way into your mouth in one fell swoop... Keeping him guessing can be a real turn-on.
Use Your Hands: Part 1. Run your hands over his chest and legs. Grab his backside. Use your hands to gently cup his balls. Not only does it feel good, but it's a good way to show him that you're into it.
Don't Be Shy. Women often under-estimate the amount of pressure they can exert on an aroused, erect penis. There's no need to be delicate. It's good to start out with soft, tantalizing moves, but, as arousal is heightened, it will take more pressure to keep things moving along. Let him know that it's okay to tell you when it's too much. Odds are, he won't.
Watch Those Teeth! Unless your partner specifically requests it, don't use your teeth. It can and probably will be painful for him. The best technique is to suck in your lips to cover your teeth just to make sure you don't accidentally graze him during the act.
The Extra-Credit Secret Spot. On the underside of the penis, directly below the head, is a small ridge of skin known as the frenulum. On many men, this area is exquisitely sensitive to stimulation. Learn it. Know it. Use it.
Get Into a Rhythm. Once he's fully aroused and heading towards what will hopefully be a mind-blowing orgasm, it's time to take things up a notch. This is where you begin fellating in earnest. Use gentle (not too gentle) suction and an up-and-down motion with your head to move him toward climax.
Use Your Hands: Part 2. Grasp his penis at the base and move your hand up and down in rhythm with your mouth for increased pressure. Get a steady rhythm going and don't vary it. It can (and probably will) speed up as he gets closer, but at this point it's important to not change what you're doing. This is the very best way to make sure your excursion into blow job land reaches its grand finale.
To Swallow or Not To Swallow... That is the question. It's up to you. Many men will tell you that they kind of like it when their partner swallows (although if you did your job well, they might not even notice). But if the idea doesn't appeal, keep a towel or cup nearby so you don't have to race to the sink afterwards.
The Most Important Thing to Remember. Have fun. Relax. He's going to love it. At the very least, he'll like it. A whole, whole lot. Especially if you promise to keep practicing on h
Monday, September 20, 2010
Bathtub boogie
The bathtub is something that is great for sex. It makes for some close for comfort sex. This is great for me. I will let you know I did this recently and I will want to know how it goes for you.
Bathtub boogie
Erotic Instructions:
Your partner reclines in the tub with the water level waist-high. If he's too tall to straighten his legs, he can bend them. Place an inflatable bath pillow behind his back if you have one. Then straddle his lap, facing his feet, and slowly lower yourself onto his penis. Lean forward so you're resting on your palms. He holds on to your butt or thighs as you ride him.
Bathtub boogie
Erotic Instructions:
Your partner reclines in the tub with the water level waist-high. If he's too tall to straighten his legs, he can bend them. Place an inflatable bath pillow behind his back if you have one. Then straddle his lap, facing his feet, and slowly lower yourself onto his penis. Lean forward so you're resting on your palms. He holds on to your butt or thighs as you ride him.
Sunday, September 19, 2010
Dear to Cupid
I love to try new sex positions. I tried this one with my boyfriend and we love doing this one.
Dear to Cupid
She lies flat on her back,
you sit between her parted knees, raise them,
hook her feet over your thighs,
catch hold of her breasts, and enjoy her:
this is "Manmathpriya"
Try this one and let me know how it works for you.
Dear to Cupid
She lies flat on her back,
you sit between her parted knees, raise them,
hook her feet over your thighs,
catch hold of her breasts, and enjoy her:
this is "Manmathpriya"
Try this one and let me know how it works for you.
Friday, September 17, 2010
Sex locations
This is one of the things that makes sex so great. I love to change things up. Here are some things to change up locations.
*As sexy as you can, strip off one piece of clothing
*Slowly remove an article of clothing from your partner (your choice)
*Slow dance together for one song – great when you are naked
*Put on one item of lingerie or sexy clothing your lover chooses
*Standing, hug and kiss each other passionately (French kissing)
*Perform a lap dance to music while removing one item of clothing
*Describe in detail a raunchy sex scenario involving both of you
*Lightly stroke your lover’s face, lips, neck and ears with your finger tips
*Caress, kiss and lick up and back down your lover’s legs
*Tickle the back of your partner’s knee with the tip of your tongue
*Trace the major lines on your lover’s palm with the tip of your tongue
*Take your lover’s thumb in your mouth and caress it with your tongue
*Lick and suck each finger on one of your lover’s hand
*As sexy as you can, strip off one piece of clothing
*Slowly remove an article of clothing from your partner (your choice)
*Slow dance together for one song – great when you are naked
*Put on one item of lingerie or sexy clothing your lover chooses
*Standing, hug and kiss each other passionately (French kissing)
*Perform a lap dance to music while removing one item of clothing
*Describe in detail a raunchy sex scenario involving both of you
*Lightly stroke your lover’s face, lips, neck and ears with your finger tips
*Caress, kiss and lick up and back down your lover’s legs
*Tickle the back of your partner’s knee with the tip of your tongue
*Trace the major lines on your lover’s palm with the tip of your tongue
*Take your lover’s thumb in your mouth and caress it with your tongue
*Lick and suck each finger on one of your lover’s hand
Thursday, September 16, 2010
My phone boyfriend
My phone boyfriend is so sweet. I know how to turn him on. He loves the sound of my voice and how I know him so well. He loves that I talk about us and that everyone knows about us. He loves taking care of me. It is so sweet that he loves taking care of me. He has been one of the sweetest guys. I just love the sound of his voice. It is so soothing and gentle. He is one of the guys that you just don't want to let go of. He is one that you want to keep around.
Wednesday, September 15, 2010
Ways to spice up your sex life
There are so many ways to spice up your sex life. Here are some ways to spice it up. There are so many other ways. Please share your ideas.
20 Ways to spice up your love life
1. Why do you have to? If the combination of the two people isn't spicy enough, stay home and read a good book.
2. Let your date pick from a grab bag of coupons for different sex acts from a sensuous massage to intercourse in the room of his choice.
3. Flirt, flirt, flirt with your partner: No matter how long you've been together, flirt with each other when you go out. If you used to flirt with each other and now don't, start doing it again. If you never did, try stepping out of your "norm" and flirt a little with him or her.
4.Let your husband/date choose a sexy outfit for you to wear. Just the act of dressing for him -- outfit and lingerie -- will turn him on.
5. Go on a road trip! Just drive, no destination in mind, and see where the road takes you.
6. Do a slow strip tease, one item of clothing after each romantic dance. You probably won't get past 3 songs.
7. Wear sexy underwear that you know your mate will love – it will be an extra special gift as he unwraps his "present".
8. Play photographer and model. Whether you keep the photos or not, it is a great turn on. And a great way to find out what about your looks turns him on.
9. Make some chocolate fondue for dessert – and then brush the leftovers on each other!
10. Start with you nude in your heels and have him to put your garter belt and hose on you -- again you might get past one leg. Note -- if HE puts on your garter belt and hose --run for your life.
11. Try something you never have before – whether it be a public place, bondage, or blind folds, it will bring a whole new dimension to your lovemaking.
12. Invent your own brand of romance and it doesn't have to look like anyone else's. Romance to you might be yelling and screaming together at a basketball game. It might be snuggled up at your favorite restaurant or it might be taking a walk in the woods and holding hands.
13. Send flirty texts in the hours before your date – by dinner, the anticipation will be driving you crazy.
14. Wear new undies. Even if you don't plan for the night to go in that direction, it will make you feel more sexy and confident.
15. Share the fantasy night. Whisper your fantasy in his ear in public and let him stew in the thought until you get home. Have the stage set.
16. Watch a dirty movie. Either it will turn you on, or give you a great shared laugh.
17. Try an evening of finger foods... feeding each other gooey, messy, bites can be incredibly erotic!
18. Take a trip down memory lane. For date night, do something together that you used to love to do together. Maybe it's the restaurant where you met, bowling or renting the movie you saw together on your first date.
19. Fool around – but don't have sex. Remember high school, when you'd make out for hours and never even take off your clothes? NOT having sex can be a huge turn on.
20. Try role playing. Meet at a bar and pretend to be strangers... the excitement will be flowing in no time.
20 Ways to spice up your love life
1. Why do you have to? If the combination of the two people isn't spicy enough, stay home and read a good book.
2. Let your date pick from a grab bag of coupons for different sex acts from a sensuous massage to intercourse in the room of his choice.
3. Flirt, flirt, flirt with your partner: No matter how long you've been together, flirt with each other when you go out. If you used to flirt with each other and now don't, start doing it again. If you never did, try stepping out of your "norm" and flirt a little with him or her.
4.Let your husband/date choose a sexy outfit for you to wear. Just the act of dressing for him -- outfit and lingerie -- will turn him on.
5. Go on a road trip! Just drive, no destination in mind, and see where the road takes you.
6. Do a slow strip tease, one item of clothing after each romantic dance. You probably won't get past 3 songs.
7. Wear sexy underwear that you know your mate will love – it will be an extra special gift as he unwraps his "present".
8. Play photographer and model. Whether you keep the photos or not, it is a great turn on. And a great way to find out what about your looks turns him on.
9. Make some chocolate fondue for dessert – and then brush the leftovers on each other!
10. Start with you nude in your heels and have him to put your garter belt and hose on you -- again you might get past one leg. Note -- if HE puts on your garter belt and hose --run for your life.
11. Try something you never have before – whether it be a public place, bondage, or blind folds, it will bring a whole new dimension to your lovemaking.
12. Invent your own brand of romance and it doesn't have to look like anyone else's. Romance to you might be yelling and screaming together at a basketball game. It might be snuggled up at your favorite restaurant or it might be taking a walk in the woods and holding hands.
13. Send flirty texts in the hours before your date – by dinner, the anticipation will be driving you crazy.
14. Wear new undies. Even if you don't plan for the night to go in that direction, it will make you feel more sexy and confident.
15. Share the fantasy night. Whisper your fantasy in his ear in public and let him stew in the thought until you get home. Have the stage set.
16. Watch a dirty movie. Either it will turn you on, or give you a great shared laugh.
17. Try an evening of finger foods... feeding each other gooey, messy, bites can be incredibly erotic!
18. Take a trip down memory lane. For date night, do something together that you used to love to do together. Maybe it's the restaurant where you met, bowling or renting the movie you saw together on your first date.
19. Fool around – but don't have sex. Remember high school, when you'd make out for hours and never even take off your clothes? NOT having sex can be a huge turn on.
20. Try role playing. Meet at a bar and pretend to be strangers... the excitement will be flowing in no time.
Tuesday, September 14, 2010
Back up bootie
I know I have been looking for ways to spice up my sex life. I have found that this has been one for the books. I love to do this one with a partner. For some reason it is hot and makes for some really hot sex.
Backup bootie
Erotic Instructions:
Your partner lies on his back, his legs straight out in front of him, a pillow under his head so he can watch the action. You straddle him with your head facing his feet. With your hands on the floor for support, you back up onto his penis. He holds your upper thighs or butt tightly while you thrust.
Try it and find out. Let me know. It will be fun.
Backup bootie
Erotic Instructions:
Your partner lies on his back, his legs straight out in front of him, a pillow under his head so he can watch the action. You straddle him with your head facing his feet. With your hands on the floor for support, you back up onto his penis. He holds your upper thighs or butt tightly while you thrust.
Try it and find out. Let me know. It will be fun.
Thursday, September 9, 2010
Jerking off
Do you ever get alone time to play with your piece? I know you guys take time to masturbate. Here are some names for it. Share your ideas on it.
*Hosing down the driveway
*Hotfooting it to the nearest exit
*Hug the hog
*Hump your hose
*Investing in pork bellies
*Invoking the Oscar Meyer love spell
*Jack hammer
*Jazz yourself
*Jerk Jamby
*Jerk the gherkin
*left to your own devices
*Letting the cat out of the bag
*Hosing down the driveway
*Hotfooting it to the nearest exit
*Hug the hog
*Hump your hose
*Investing in pork bellies
*Invoking the Oscar Meyer love spell
*Jack hammer
*Jazz yourself
*Jerk Jamby
*Jerk the gherkin
*left to your own devices
*Letting the cat out of the bag
Tuesday, September 7, 2010
Pain
There are so many things that are a part of BDsM. Here is one. This one is hard to explain, but here is the best explanation I have found.
Sadist - a person who specifically enjoys administering pain. A sadist is NOT: a wife-beater, a rapist, a serial killer, a kicker of dogs and a stealer of candy from babies. This misconception is common. While it is certainly not impossible that an erotic sadist could be any or all of these things, it is not common and by no means true across the board. Your average erotic sadist is interested in mutual gratification with a consenting partner, and in using all kinds of pain as pleasure-giving stimuli. Forget those whip-wielding weirdos you saw on Springer the other day; they aren’t exactly representative
Sadist - a person who specifically enjoys administering pain. A sadist is NOT: a wife-beater, a rapist, a serial killer, a kicker of dogs and a stealer of candy from babies. This misconception is common. While it is certainly not impossible that an erotic sadist could be any or all of these things, it is not common and by no means true across the board. Your average erotic sadist is interested in mutual gratification with a consenting partner, and in using all kinds of pain as pleasure-giving stimuli. Forget those whip-wielding weirdos you saw on Springer the other day; they aren’t exactly representative
Thursday, September 2, 2010
My phone boyfriend
This guy is so sweet. He has been my phone sex boyfriend. He loves making sure that I am so well taken care of. He loves the way my legs look. He loves to make sure that I am tipped. He loves that we are together and that we are boyfriend and girlfriend. I love the way he talks to me. It is so soothing and so nice.
Names to call sex
We all have things to call having sex so that we don't have to have to say that we are having sex. It is something we can say so that we can do that in front of the kids or in front of polite company. It is something that we do so that we can have something personal with our partner. Here are some names I have thought of. Please feel free to comment and tell me what you use when you are "getting down to business" or "getting your freak on"
*Pickle tickle
*Marinate the loin
*Dinging the duck
*Banging the beaver
*Sinking the sailor
*Horizontal polka
*Horizontal hula
*Boink
*Humping
*Wanna take a nap?
*Pole dance
*Slap skins
*Hump
*Pickle tickle
*Marinate the loin
*Dinging the duck
*Banging the beaver
*Sinking the sailor
*Horizontal polka
*Horizontal hula
*Boink
*Humping
*Wanna take a nap?
*Pole dance
*Slap skins
*Hump
Wednesday, September 1, 2010
Sex and Spanking
There is some etiquette for spanking during sex. The main thing to remember is pain and not to hurt your partner. One cheek at a time. Here are some tips.
how to spank her
Don't wind up like a maniac just yet; there is an actual etiquette to spanking women:
Warm up
Obviously, I don't mean that you should jog around the block; rather, rub your hands together to ensure that they're warm when they connect with her skin.
Choose the hand
Although right-handed people tend to use their right hands, you can opt to use whichever hand you're more comfortable with -- or even both, just not at the same time.
One cheek at a time
Just to reiterate; never smack both cheeks at the same time; not only will you not be able to do your spanking adequately, you may end up hurting her, in a bad way.
Position yourself
Place yourself in a position where you're able to maneuver freely and accurately. The last thing you want to do is smack her on her back or thigh.
Keep your hand tight
By keeping your hand solid and slightly cupping your hand, you ensure a nice sound, a slight sting and a whole lot of pleasure.
Smack it up
Remember that you're aiming for the meatiest part of her butt, which is the middle. After you actually slap her cheek, rub the area with your hand for a moment before you attempt to have another go at it.
how to spank her
Don't wind up like a maniac just yet; there is an actual etiquette to spanking women:
Warm up
Obviously, I don't mean that you should jog around the block; rather, rub your hands together to ensure that they're warm when they connect with her skin.
Choose the hand
Although right-handed people tend to use their right hands, you can opt to use whichever hand you're more comfortable with -- or even both, just not at the same time.
One cheek at a time
Just to reiterate; never smack both cheeks at the same time; not only will you not be able to do your spanking adequately, you may end up hurting her, in a bad way.
Position yourself
Place yourself in a position where you're able to maneuver freely and accurately. The last thing you want to do is smack her on her back or thigh.
Keep your hand tight
By keeping your hand solid and slightly cupping your hand, you ensure a nice sound, a slight sting and a whole lot of pleasure.
Smack it up
Remember that you're aiming for the meatiest part of her butt, which is the middle. After you actually slap her cheek, rub the area with your hand for a moment before you attempt to have another go at it.
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