PICK & MIX

WHAT YOU’LL NEED:
A bowl, two pens and two stacks of paper – one colour for him, a different one for you.
HOW TO PLAY:
Grab your pile of paper and write down things you’ve always wanted him to do in bed, then ask him to do the same. Include a range of ideas, from “Caress my breasts” to “Talk dirty” to “Go down on me”.
Fold them up into squares and drop them into a bowl before mixing well. Now, pick one each and follow the instructions. Keep going until the bowl is completely empty.
Ideas for your bowl of lurve:
For her
• Jump in for a double shower
• Give me a hand massage, then suck each finger in turn
• Use my vibrator on me
For Him
• Blow, suck and lick my neck
• Dress up in sexy lingerie
• Masturbate for me
Why you’ll love it:
You’re in for a very sexy surprise – plus an insight into each other’s biggest turn-ons.

Stripper and Client

Description: This role play is focused on voyeurism, but also on lack of emotion in sex. A lap dance is a deeply sensual act, and when done properly, leaves both participants feeling rather randy.

Remember: Erotic dancing can be a tough call, especially if a woman is very conscious of her body. A great way to offset these fears is to use lighting, stockings and makeup. Dim lights tone skin nicely, as do red lights (covering a normal lamp with red material also works). Any lumps and bumps are smoothed out. Keep in mind that the removal of all clothes is not strictly necessary, so let her know to feel free to keep on a sexy-but-supportive bra, or a lovely pair of knickers, or both. As long as the moves are hot and the lighting is appropriate, it will look beautiful and the effect will be the same.

If finding some moves is a problem, look up dancing videos on the web, or if you dare, go into a real strip club and see what they do. Most cities around the globe now have strip workout classes available for women (and possibly men) which are a fantastic way to get fit and release the sensual beast inside.

Sample scenario 1: A dancer in a club is solicited to do a private dance. She takes him into her private booth and closes the curtains, then proceeds to give him the striptease of his life. There are rules: no touching and no kissing. He may put money down her garter belt. He must keep his clothes on.

Sample scenario 2: A sexy twist on the paid strip scenario is for it to be impromptu and free. For example, your girlfriend locks you in the garden, then gives you a decadent strip tease through the window where you can see her, but cannot touch her or get in the house until she says. Watch out for nosy neighbors!

Props: A sexy outfit is paramount -- a g-string is the generally accepted norm. What you wear on top is up to you, but costumes can be worn such as a nurse’s or maid’s uniform. For shoes, stilettos or high heels are the best.